After a week of normal sex, with me orgasming, I quickly got used to "normal" life. I became more interested in my own well being and less attentive. Subsequently, she soon realised that she actually preferred being worshipped. I came home from work one day and she told me that she wanted a new dildo, bigger than my dick. It was to be used when she needed to be "filled"after I have given her oral sex. She said she thought I would be better behaved if we used this system rather than letting me come inside her.
Naturally I agreed and I am now browsing the net for a suitable item.
We have now agreed that I will be allowed one orgasm for every ten that she has.
This feels pretty good - an open acknowledgement that we both prefer it this way, even though it's not the societal norm.
It feels like I've moved out of the "stealth" phase into something a lot more permanent and sustainable.